I work with people in various levels of marital distress. I like to think that I provide them with Godly counsel and practical advice on how to make their situation better. But the key here is the word – “better”. I didn’t say “perfect”. I… Read More »No Marriage is Perfect
Step 5 – Be Prepared The Boy Scout motto is – Be Prepared. As an Eagle Scout myself, incorporating that motto has helped me across a variety of scenarios in my life. In a nutshell, this motto suggests that you look ahead and anticipate the… Read More »5 Steps to a Shocking Marriage: #5
Step 1 – Understand Entropy Entropy is a fancy word that comes out of the world of physics and thermodynamics. Put in its simplest terms – “Stuff that is in order now will over time fall into disorder”. In other words, nothing gets better on… Read More »5 Steps to a Shocking Marriage – #1
Even the best of marriages go through seasons of highs and lows. Feelings can swing from being crazy about your partner to having your partner drive you crazy. That’s natural. The key is to maintaina long-term perspective and not let the little things bring you… Read More »Keep the Long View
In the last few months I have had three or four couples (in or around my social circles) that are in serious trouble. In each case, one partner in the marriage has walked out on the other and declared that from their perspective “It’s over”.… Read More »Marriage is like lawn care…
Fortunately, I’ve not been ignoring my marriage like I have been this blog. In terms of my marriage, things have been good. But it seems like we’re surrounded by those whose relationships are in dire trouble. It’s tough being around / counseling (term used loosely)… Read More »Keeping conflict in perspective…
The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines duality as “The quality or state of being dual or having a dual nature”. This is a common issue faced by individuals and one that I, on a personal basis, fought for years. I used to act one way… Read More »Eliminate Duality in Your Marriage
This summer will mark our 30th year of marriage. We’re certainly not the same people now that we were when we wed. We’ve been through a lot together and grown both individually and as a couple. While some of that learning needed to come over… Read More »In your marriage, what do you wish you knew then, that you know now?
I visited my son’s church yesterday and heard their senior minister give a message on Vision. It was an inspiring sermon of the importance of not only setting a vision, but ensuring that you continually pour effort into it to keep it on track and… Read More »Vision Drift in Marriage