Step #4 – Set Goals A shocking marriage is one that improves over time. As we’ve already discussed, this doesn’t happen naturally, it takes prioritization and intentionality. Without a concerted effort to improve, marriages simply degrade over time. Anyone who has been in any type… Read More »5 Steps to a Shocking Marriage: #4
Step #3 – Set Priorities We saw in the first two steps that (1.) if you do nothing, your marriage will deteriorate and (2.) you need to be intentional in terms of focusing on your relationship to keep it strong. In this step we talk… Read More »5 Steps to a Shocking Marriage: #3
Step 2 – Be Intentional We saw in Step 1 that it is important to realize that marriages will erode if they are not focused on and maintained. In this step, we look at the importance of being intentional in a marriage and not letting… Read More »5 Steps to a Shocking Marriage: #2
Step 1 – Understand Entropy Entropy is a fancy word that comes out of the world of physics and thermodynamics. Put in its simplest terms – “Stuff that is in order now will over time fall into disorder”. In other words, nothing gets better on… Read More »5 Steps to a Shocking Marriage – #1
You probably know a person that after a health scare, began to focus on exercise, quit smoking or lost weight. Being faced with one’s mortality is a tremendous motivator for lifestyle change. It seems to me that we treat our marriages in much the… Read More »Do Marriages Need a Gym?
We do very little within our culture to celebrate or honor the institution of marriage. Sure, when a couple celebrates their Golden Anniversary (50 years of marriage) there’s typically a big to-do, but up until then all we see is the annual Facebook post where… Read More »Marriages need Marriages
It’s funny. I’ve been very focused on marriage of late. I have my first book at the publisher and I’m in the beginning stages of starting a marriage ministry at my church. I’ve beenresearching it, reading about it, looking at conferences and planning to attend… Read More »Wake Up Call
Even the best of marriages go through seasons of highs and lows. Feelings can swing from being crazy about your partner to having your partner drive you crazy. That’s natural. The key is to maintaina long-term perspective and not let the little things bring you… Read More »Keep the Long View
There’s something I’ve come to observe in most marriages. There is typically a more dominant personality, and a more submissive one. This does not seem to be gender driven at all as the roles vary from couple to couple. And there’s no one ratio that… Read More »Dominance & Complacency