Some people are naturally optimistic and some fall more toward the side of pessimism. It’s just the way they are wired. These perspectives seep into all aspects of life, and marriage is not exempt. Optimists see a bright future for the relationship with opportunities abounding.… Read More »Don’t Assume the Worst
My wife recently made the comment, “I’ve spent my life being told I should be more this way or more that way. I’ve been told what I should be, how I should act and how I should do things.” My first thought was that she… Read More »Influencing your Spouse
I have traveled to India several times. One thing that always amazes me is the traffic and the way people drive there. A given four-lane road may contain seven actual lanes, consisting of cars, trucks, scooters, pedestrians and cows. Despite the seeming chaos, it seems… Read More »Look Forward in your Marriage
How many times have you sent an email or text to someone that is misunderstood? Their reply is far different that what you expected.
The more that you give in a marriage, the more that you have. These authors will explain why it is critical to focus on your own behavior in a marriage, rather than criticizing your spouse
I love the word appreciation. It has a wide range of specific meanings, all revolving around the concept of value. Items of value increase in worth over time. If you buy a house, it typically appreciates over time. You sell it for more than you… Read More »Appreciation
Trust. A simple concept in theory. If you do what you say you will do (or don’t do what you say you won’t do), I will trust you. Violate that, and distrust emerges quickly. Many people are reluctant to trust quickly. Trust must be earned… Read More »Trust is not a Goal, It’s an Indicator of Intimacy
This whole experience has been a mixed blessing for our marriage. The move itself was trying and I know we frustrated each other with our different styles and approaches to the project. But far more important is the blessing that we are now experiencing as we explore and discover the new area in which we live.
I like jigsaw puzzles. But I have to admit, I am very dependent on seeing the image on the box. For every piece I pick up, I look to the box to see where it might fit. Once I know about where it goes, I… Read More »Life as a Jigsaw Puzzle