Picture this. You are at a business function with your husband. You stand loyally at his side throughout the evening and thoroughly enjoy the charm, the warmth and the conversation that he exudes with everyone that he encounters. You see a facet of him that… Read More »The unhealthy games we play – Part 2, Duality
I’m convinced that the difference between a mediocre marriage and a shocking marriage are the games that we play with each other. I’m not talking about recreational activities, but rather control-based games of power and manipulation. In the workshops we’ve led, we’ve had numerous men… Read More »The unhealthy games we play – Part 1 – sex
If you say you never argue with your spouse, I’ll say that you’re not talking enough! Conflict is inevitable in an intimate relationship. The biblical concept of “the two shall become one” is not an immediate transformation, but rather a process that happens over time.… Read More »Rules of Engagement
We have one son that is coming up on his first anniversary, and another son due to be married in a week. In both cases its been fun to listen to the situations that they anticipate that would be stressful. “My family always does this…”,… Read More »Marriage Culture
In most of our minds, we have this unrealistic expectation for conflict that goes something like this… Once you hear and understand my point, you will quickly realize the error of your ways. With this newfound understanding, you will fall silent as you immediately begin… Read More »Is it always about right and wrong?