I just had coffee with a single, female colleague that I had not seen in several months. After catching up on job stuff, she began to talk about a budding relationship that she is in. For the most part, it sounded very promising, but… Read More »Completion, Not Reflection
I love family, I think most people do. But managing family is a delicate balancing act that many couples struggle with. I’m not talking about raising your pre-adult children (those can certainly be a challenge as well, but that’s a topic for another post). I’m… Read More »Families are Great… But they can be Tough
We recently had the opportunity to host our first in-home marriage retreat. The feedback was outstanding (as you can see in the embedded videos) and a good time was had by all. This fall we will be hosting marriage retreats in a lovely conference center… Read More »In-Home Marriage Retreat
My wife recently made the comment, “I’ve spent my life being told I should be more this way or more that way. I’ve been told what I should be, how I should act and how I should do things.” My first thought was that she… Read More »Influencing your Spouse
I have traveled to India several times. One thing that always amazes me is the traffic and the way people drive there. A given four-lane road may contain seven actual lanes, consisting of cars, trucks, scooters, pedestrians and cows. Despite the seeming chaos, it seems… Read More »Look Forward in your Marriage
How many times have you sent an email or text to someone that is misunderstood? Their reply is far different that what you expected.
The more that you give in a marriage, the more that you have. These authors will explain why it is critical to focus on your own behavior in a marriage, rather than criticizing your spouse
I love the word appreciation. It has a wide range of specific meanings, all revolving around the concept of value. Items of value increase in worth over time. If you buy a house, it typically appreciates over time. You sell it for more than you… Read More »Appreciation
Trust. A simple concept in theory. If you do what you say you will do (or don’t do what you say you won’t do), I will trust you. Violate that, and distrust emerges quickly. Many people are reluctant to trust quickly. Trust must be earned… Read More »Trust is not a Goal, It’s an Indicator of Intimacy